Fetish and Fiction

What does being a pole dancer online in the age of oversharing mean for your perception of self? For this post, I’ve decided to dig deep and share things that have hurt me and made me think about the ‘attention economy’. So get ready for a short essay about living as a woman online (and, … More Fetish and Fiction

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So I Published A Novel

So I went and self-published my novel, Bad/Tender. In this post, I give you a behind-the-scenes sneak-peek of how and why I did it. Bad/Tender Bad/Tender is a coming-of-age literary novel focusing on an abusive relationship, written before #MeToo but appropriate for our times. The story touches upon consent, rape, mental illness, immigration, social and professional uncertainty … More So I Published A Novel

Dating as a pole dancer: things (mostly) men have said to me

Since I’ve become a pole dancer, I have noticed that most people believe that I either have a very exciting love life, or that I’m a big hoe. I love expectation versus reality scenarios, so I thought I could compare what (mostly) men have told me with my very unexciting dating life for a laugh. Get … More Dating as a pole dancer: things (mostly) men have said to me

Wellcome Collection Institute of Sexology and Forensics

What better way to spend your Saturdays than queuing for London’s hottest exhibitions right now? The Wellcome Collection caters for the morbid and the kinky with the over-reviewed, highly anticipated and – sigh – incredibly queued-for displays on violent death (Forensics) and sex (The Institute of Sexology).  I had plans for my Saturday. I really did. Then … More Wellcome Collection Institute of Sexology and Forensics

The Image as Burden: Marlene Dumas at the Tate Modern Gallery

The Tate Modern Gallery in South Bank is now hosting one of London’s most talked-about exhibitions, Marlene Dumas‘s The Image As Burden.  Focusing mainly on sex, love, death and shame, her paintings explore popular culture and women through an intense and psychologically charged lens. By painting subjects coming from both her personal life (her daughter) and from … More The Image as Burden: Marlene Dumas at the Tate Modern Gallery

Review of Bad Feminist, the New York Times bestseller asking feminists to cut themselves some slack

I saw a copy of Bad Feminist on every bookshelf and in every book store during my Couchsurfing trip in the USA. By the time I reached San Francisco I was basically bullied into buying it by a bunch of impressive reviews. Here’s what I thought of Roxane Gay‘s New York Times Bestseller. Bad Feminist is a book of short … More Review of Bad Feminist, the New York Times bestseller asking feminists to cut themselves some slack