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Good grip is essential for any pole dance training or performance, but with the most widely used grip aid brand in the pole industry, Dry Hands, announcing they’re having supply issues well… how are we gonna stick to that pole? This post rounds up pole dance grips that aren’t Dry Hands to save your sweaty hands from slipping.

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#promisingyoungwoman review (TW: rape and ofc spoi

#promisingyoungwoman review (TW: rape and ofc spoiler alert, don’t read if you wanna watch it). So I was really looking forward to watching Promising Young Woman and now that I have, I have mixed feelings. Here’s why.

♥️ Things I loved:
- The cutesy, whimsical aesthetic that clashed with the darkness of the story
- The acting and writing
- The costumes
- The fact that it didn’t need to show the horror of what happened in the video, or of what happened to her friend, because that horror was implied and effective. No need for morbid rape scenes. Many movies should learn from this approach - too often, rape scenes add nothing to the narrative
- The emphasis on the “nice guys” who cover their own backs & can’t identify as perpetrators of violence, particularly when women are unconscious
-The fact that no one ever denies the rape, it’s just played down as something that doesn’t matter, or something depending on circumstances other than the men’s guilt
- The portrayal of the injustice behind putting the onus of protecting themselves on women, instead of condemning male violence.

✖️ My main problems with the movie:
- It doesn’t know what it wants to be. It’s set up as both a revenge slasher film and a feminist drama, but it doesn’t deliver fully on either set-ups
- The ending. As a survivor, one of the main pushes that keeps me alive is that after rape, society, entertainment and the criminal justice system want women to be broken and/or dead. For them, a woman who dies after rape has kept her honour intact. Surviving is the hardest part though, and it’s an act of defiance for me. By dying to avenge her friend, Cassie has no release or growth: she is locked in the horror of what happened. And that’s why I think the film is a miss for me.

I found #imaydestroyyou a better rounded, more complex and stronger feminist rendition of the aftermath and surrounding circumstances of rape than Promising Young Woman. The latter was enjoyable, and I’m glad I watched it, but this is why I think I can’t really see it as ground-breaking: the women are still dead, even if now the men are not fully getting away with it.

Mi unisco alla campagna #ilgiornodopo di @alias_cw

Mi unisco alla campagna #ilgiornodopo di @alias_cwalpole. TW: stupro. Non parlo spesso di queste cose in italiano perchè le ho vissute in inglese, e perchè forse non ho mai trovato le parole. Il problema è che da noi, le parole non si trovano: il mito del malvagio estraneo in un vicolo buio fa si che chiunque abbia un’esperienza diversa non sia credut*, e che “quei bravi ragazzi” non vengano mai puniti. É una storia di vittime e colpevoli ideali che non esiste.

Ho studiato e insegno criminologia, e insegno che la legge, casi precedenti e ricerche dimostrano che invece, la vittima ideale non esiste. Sono i pregiudizi sul comportamento a cui le vittime dovrebbero attenersi che consentono ai colpevoli di negare l’evidenza.

Il giorno dopo, io ho messo in ordine la mia stanza e sono andata a lavoro, perchè avevo appena iniziato in un nuovo ufficio e volevo fare una buona impressione. Ho chiamato la polizia 2 giorni dopo, e non ho mai sporto denuncia. La poliziotta mi disse che non mi avrebbe creduto nessuno perchè lui era il mio ragazzo, ed era piú grande. Io la polizia non la volevo neanche chiamare: non mi ci identificavo con quello che era successo. Io ero forte, femminista. Non ero finita in un vicolo buio, solo in camera col mio ragazzo. Non ci volevo credere che fosse successo a me, ma le mie amiche mi avevano convinta.

Invece era successo. Ci ho messo anni a guarire e forse non guariró mai del tutto. Ho fatto tanti viaggi, tante feste, tanto sesso, mi son trasferita in Australia e di nuovo a Londra. Ma quello che ho fatto prima o dopo, il fatto che non mi sia ammazzata o non abbia fatto il voto di castità alla Madonna non cancellano la mia esperienza.

Il fatto che un “politico” usi i suoi social con milioni di followers contro una ragazza che probabilmente adesso sta cercando di sopravvivere è uno schiaffo a tutt* quell* che la violenza l’hanno passata. E consente ad altri di commetterla, sapendo che gente come lui li potrà difendere. E io non ci sto.

Basta con le scuse: pensiamo alle strutture e ai pregiudizi che consentono loro di continuare imperterriti - quelle strutture e quei pregiudizi nei video di Grillo.

Even the tiniest of changes to lockdown restrictio

Even the tiniest of changes to lockdown restrictions means the world to me 🥺 so nice to be able to see my best friends again, first time since my bday in December! 😱😱😱

As I wait to release tickets for my May workshop,

As I wait to release tickets for my May workshop, here’s a reminder that throughout the never-ending lockdowns I’ve built quite a list of tutorials, which you can find via @buymeacoffee:

👠 #polechoreo recordings / tutorials:
•WAP
• Enter Sandman (Heavy Metal pole)
• Black Crow On A Tombstone (Black Metal Pole)
• Everybody by Backstreet Boys

👠 off the pole recordings:
• Absolute beginners twerkshop
• FloorWERK workshop with technique + choreo to Roxette’s The Look
•Barefoot choreo to Eye by Smashing Pumpkins
•Barefoot choreo to Crimson & Clover

💪🏼 #poletraining stuff:
• #videotutorial for your pole dance warm-up
• Quick 5 minute pole abs tutorial
• Show-off spinning pole tricks class

All of these are between £6 and £10 each and you can keep them for life 💖 through BMC you can also sign up for an online private class with me, with the option to buy packages of more classes 💖 a lot of these links are in my bio already 💖

Keep your eyes peeled for May’s Glam Metal pole choreo workshop 👀
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Happy @pdfilthyfriday and what a Filthy Friday it

Happy @pdfilthyfriday and what a Filthy Friday it is because I’m on the freakin’ Filthy Friday 4Play podcast with the one, the only @beanie_the_jet 😍 this podcast episode is super important to me because I’m so damn used to promoting myself in interviews that sometimes I don’t even sound like a fucking human 😅 - here, for the first time in a long while, I get personal and vulnerable with Beans and I love it 💖 Beans is such a fab interviewer and this felt like a chat between the friends we are - with added no chill about feminism, representation and ethics in the pole industry, growing as an instructor, my impostor syndrome about my dancing and more. Thank you for having me Beanie! Go listen to all the amaze interviews she’s already done 💖💖💖 pic from my @atomic.tangerine #virtualphotoshoot
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#podcastinterview #poledancerofinstagram #pdfilthyfriday #filthyfriday #filthyfriday4play

Pubs are open. Act natural 🤣 Loving @thekentonp

Pubs are open. Act natural 🤣 Loving @thekentonpub’s Wes Anderson beer garden! 😍 so nice to have draught beers back!

One of the things I’ve missed the most was brows

One of the things I’ve missed the most was browsing bookshops and sitting at a café - and today I finally got both back 🥺 browsing in #bookstores, chatting with the staff and getting recommendations is one of my fave ways to relax. I have been stalking @bookbaruk on IG since before lockdown and today I walked there from Clapton - the team were lovely and helped me “do it for the ‘Gram” while also recommending some fab books on the basis of the last fiction book I loved, “Boy Parts” by @fancyeliza 💖 this place is so cool! It doubles up as a wine bar in the evenings and I can’t wait to be back, but meanwhile here some bookshop spam + me in my my @ethicalstripper mask, right in front of my fave Camilleri novels 🥰
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#bookstoresofinstagram
#londonreopens #londonerslife

Happy #sundaybumday 💖 had a really wobbly week.

Happy #sundaybumday 💖 had a really wobbly week. I didn’t get into a postdoc program I was really hoping to get, and I had my heart really set on it because they asked me to apply and thought I had a shot 🥺 I know my work is valuable and being quoted for it in conferences I attended this week was a treat, but damn, academia is hard. My health’s been up and down, and I’m on my period so everything sucks and everything hurts 🤣 Buuuut it’s also been a great week of lovely things 💖 I really enjoyed teaching today’s workshops - already available via @buymeacoffee and through the #linkinmybio - as well as recording my video submission for my online comp, and recording a lil’ something with a dear friend that’s gonna drop next week 👀 life is not all bad and not all good. But I’m tired 🤣 So enjoy this little #polefreestyle because it was my little therapy this week, and I was really feeling myself in this set by @pole_addict_official that I’ll be reviewing for the blog soon 💖 song: “Break My Baby” by @officialkaleo
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So excited to dance with all of you in tomorrow’

So excited to dance with all of you in tomorrow’s workshops! Tickets still available, any questions DM 💖 Wearing: @riotpole & @clubhellaheels from @pole_junkie 💖 shot by: @atomic.tangerine in our #virtualphotoshoot 💖 #poledancersofinsta #polewearbrand

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In the press

“How Shadow Banning Affects People From Different Communities” – read more here.

“How to Start Fixing Social Media” – read more about research here.

“Pole dancing taught me to love and value myself” – read more here.

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